For over a decade now I have been hosting clothing-optional events in my hometown of St. Louis, Missouri, and touring my clothing-optional body image workshop, Bare As You Dare, across North America: from sex toy stores to coffee shops, from BDSM conventions to Ivy League universities. Many years ago, I presented Bare As You Dare […]
Lola, producer, and host of Sex Ed A Go-Go David Wraith: What makes your sex life amazing? Lola: I’m at a place in my life where I feel more comfortable in my body and it’s ability to be sexy while naked, and I’ve gotten better at choosing who I share that with. I’m still a big […]
Hanne Blank, author, and editor of several books, including Big Big Love and The Unapologetic Fat Girl’s Guide to Exercise. David Wraith: Without going into specifics, what makes your sex life amazing? Hanne Blank: Getting clear with myself on what I wanted sexually made all the difference to the quality of my sex life. It helped […]
Okay, some of you are already in your feels from the headline, I’m sure. Why “fat?” Why “women?” Why “sex?” Why not “Plus Sized People with Amazing Love Lives?” Let’s break it down, shall we? Fat: We have all sorts of euphemisms to describe people of size: plus-sized, pleasantly plump, big-boned, BBW, plush. And […]
I’ve spent the last five years throwing all sorts of clothing optional events. And you probably haven’t. I’ve sort of become an accidental expert on the subject, so if you’re in the St. Louis area and are in the market for a clothing optional event planner, I’m your man. If you’re outside the St. Louis […]
Why Do We Do This? Why throw a clothing optional event? Why attend one? It’s a question a child might ask, but it’s not a childish question. I’ll answer with more questions. Why do we wear costumes on Halloween? Why do we wear black to funerals? Why do some offices require business attire, and why […]
My aunt, my dad’s sister, wanted to have a relationship with me, so she became my godmother when I got baptized. She knew I loved movies so, as my godmother, she would take me to the cinema and she always let me choose. One of those movies was Working Girl. This was 1988, my freshman […]
Note: This is a guest blog I wrote on the Clothed Female Naked Male fetish (or CFNM) for kinkandpoly.com. A few years ago I was at a munch and I was complaining that since my first Dom had moved out of state, I was having no luck recreating my ideal situation: providing service to a dominant woman while nude. […]
Katie Lewis of Motif Magazine. My Bare As You Dare clothing optional workshop has been called “life changing.” I think it’s safe to say that writer Katie Lewis of Motif Magazine got more than she bargained for when she attended: “My dare this month was to prove that my clothes don’t make the woman by […]
So last week I presented at the IvyQ Conference at Dartmouth University. It’s a conference of LGBTQ Ivy League students. To say the least, I was intimidated. I’m used to presenting at kink conferences, not at schools I wasn’t a good enough student to get into. Then I arrived in Hanover, New Hampshire and read […]