My Sexual Hang Ups: Assholes

Sexual hang-ups. We all have them. However, whenever I discuss mine, I’m always met with surprise. It’s as if, because of the work I do (as co-founder of Sex Positive St. Louis, as a traveling sex educator and freelance sexual guru) I’m expected to have absolutely no sexual hang-ups at all. I’m human. I’m not […]

The Big Book of Domination Blog Tour: New York, New York!

So, back in November I flew to New York for the release of “The Big Book of Domination” the erotic anthology that my work is included in, from Cleis Press, edited by the awesome D.L. King. I had the pleasure of staying in the home of author Laura Antoniou and her lovely wife Karen. I knew […]

Getting Naked at Dartmouth: The IvyQ Conference

So last week I presented at the IvyQ Conference at Dartmouth University. It’s a conference of LGBTQ Ivy League students. To say the least, I was intimidated. I’m used to presenting at kink conferences, not at schools I wasn’t a good enough student to get into. Then I arrived in Hanover, New Hampshire and read […]

Bare As You Dare North American Tour 2014

  Back in 2012, Stephanie Co, the co-founder and then coordinator of the World Naked Bike Ride St. Louis, asked me to put together a workshop on body image to help promote the ride. In retrospect, it’s a little embarrassing that the idea hadn’t occurred to me before that, but I jumped at the chance. […]

From the Web: The BMI is a Big Fat Scam

  Check out Kiera Butler’s article for Mother Jones on Why BMI is a Big Fat Scam.  Been saying this in my body image lectures for years, the BMI is bullshit. According to it, I’m currently overweight, borderline obese. The last time I was at the high end of normal, per the BMI, was the same […]

The Ethics of Polyamory by David Wraith

The speech I gave to The Ethical Society of St. Louis on The Ethics of Polyamory is available as a podcast. Huge thanks to The Ethical Society for the opportunity and for making the recording available online. One important note: further research has shown me that the numbers I gave on infidelity are probably closer […]