On Public Speaking

Presenting on power exchange at Hustler Hollywood. I have an unprecedented number of speaking engagements lined up for the first three months of this year. I feel like I’ve gotten pretty good at public speaking in the last few years, but I’m always looking for ways to kick my skills up a notch, so I’m […]

R.I.P. Music Video

Robin Thicke’s “Blurred Lines” didn’t kill music video, it just inspired this post mortem. The strange relationship between art, commerce and technology is nothing new. Early burlesque performers probably had no idea what they were getting themselves into the first time someone asked to point one of those newfangled motion picture cameras at them. Then […]

Juror B37

Yet another post about Trayvon Martin. Add it to your collection. Amass the whole set. Watching the L.A. riots, I was so sad I almost cried. I felt the same way watching the aftermath of Hurricane Katrina. It usually takes devastation on a pretty mass scale to move me even close to tears for people […]

My Klein Grid Score

Klein Sexual Orientation Grid I scored an average of 1.33     0 1 2 3 4 5 6 Heterosexual Bisexual Homosexual   Meaning This result can also be related to the Kinsey Scale: 0 = exclusively heterosexual1 = predominantly heterosexual, incidentally homosexual2 = predominantly heterosexual, but more than incidentally homosexual3 = equally heterosexual and […]

Confronting My Friend’s (Alleged) Rapist

A photo from SlutWalk STL. Hey what did you do last Wednesday? Me? Oh, not much. I went to work, wrote a post that went “Kinky & Popular” on Fetlife (the Fetlife equivalent of going viral). I went to see “The Girl with the Dragon Tattoo.” And, oh yeah, somewhere in there I confronted the […]

Treme Season Two

Television began as a live medium. It was designed to be ephemeral. This notion survived the invention of video tape and even the advent of the VCR. The last thing the networks wanted was to lose viewers because they missed an episode, so with the exception of soap operas, most television shows had plots that […]

Shit Women Say To Me: Glad You Can Read My Subtext

Her: What’s this “you’re smarter than I expected,” “I like you more than I expected” stuff? Makes me wonder what exactly you were expecting!  Me: I thought you were dumb and that I’d hate you. Her: I appreciate your honesty. Speaking of dumb, can I peruse your book collection so that I can rectify my situation?  […]