Fat Women with Amazing Sex Lives: Hanne Blank

Hanne Blank, author of and editor of several books, including Big Big Love and The Unapologetic Fat Girl’s Guide to Exercise. David Wraith: Without going into specifics, what makes your sex life amazing? Hanne Blank: Getting clear with myself on what I wanted sexually made all the difference to the quality of my sex life.  It […]

Coming Soon: Fat Women with Amazing Sex Lives

  Okay, some of you are already in your feels from the headline, I’m sure. Why “fat?” Why “women?” Why “sex?” Why not “Plus Sized People with Amazing Love Lives?” Let’s break it down, shall we? Fat: We have all sorts of euphemisms to describe people of size: plus-sized, pleasantly plump, big-boned, BBW, plush. And […]

How to Throw a Penis Party

I’ve spent the last five years throwing all sorts of clothing optional events. And you probably haven’t. I’ve sort of become an accidental expert on the subject, so if you’re in the St. Louis area and are in the market for a clothing optional event planner, I’m your man. If you’re outside the St. Louis […]

The Naked Truth: SEX+STL Clothing Optional Events

Why Do We Do This? Why throw a clothing optional event? Why attend one? It’s a question a child might ask, but it’s not a childish question. I’ll answer with more questions. Why do we wear costumes on Halloween? Why do we wear black to funerals? Why do some offices require business attire, and why […]

Naked Vacuuming

My aunt, my dad’s sister, wanted to have a relationship with me, so she became my godmother when I got baptized. She knew I loved movies so, as my godmother, she would take me to the cinema and she always let me choose. One of those movies was Working Girl. This was 1988, my freshman […]

Clothed Female Naked Male

Photo by Molly Algernon Note: This is a guest blog I wrote on the Clothed Female Naked Male fetish (or CFNM) for kinkandpoly.com. A few years ago I was at a munch and I was complaining that since my first Dom had moved out of state, I was having no luck recreating my ideal situation: providing service to a […]

Motif Magazine Covers "Bare As You Dare" (Covers… Get It?)

Katie Lewis of Motif Magazine. My Bare As You Dare clothing optional workshop has been called “life changing.” I think it’s safe to say that writer Katie Lewis of Motif Magazine got more than she bargained for when she attended: “My dare this month was to prove that my clothes don’t make the woman by […]

Getting Naked at Dartmouth: The IvyQ Conference

So last week I presented at the IvyQ Conference at Dartmouth University. It’s a conference of LGBTQ Ivy League students. To say the least, I was intimidated. I’m used to presenting at kink conferences, not at schools I wasn’t a good enough student to get into. Then I arrived in Hanover, New Hampshire and read […]

Bare As You Dare North American Tour 2014

  Back in 2012, Stephanie Co, the co-founder and then coordinator of the World Naked Bike Ride St. Louis, asked me to put together a workshop on body image to help promote the ride. In retrospect, it’s a little embarrassing that the idea hadn’t occurred to me before that, but I jumped at the chance. […]

From the Web: The BMI is a Big Fat Scam

  Check out Kiera Butler’s article for Mother Jones on Why BMI is a Big Fat Scam.  Been saying this in my body image lectures for years, the BMI is bullshit. According to it, I’m currently overweight, borderline obese. The last time I was at the high end of normal, per the BMI, was the same […]