You know that scene in the movie about the 40-something guy having a midlife crisis where he goes to hear live music and looks really out of place and he’s Paul Rudd? That’s me. So, I’m at a live music venue for the first time in forever. This white woman puts her hand in the […]
About six months before the death of my wife, Elaine Goble Dandridge, I interviewed her. The topics were wide-ranging, but I have selected for public consumption what she said about the role drawing and painting has played in her life, her residency as a portrait artist for spoken-word poets at the Goodie House readings, and […]
“Oh look, another cishet male with thoughts about the #MeToo movement! Make a wish, sweetheart.” [If you get through all 1,200 words without being offended by something, let me know and I’ll revise.] I’m not a Men Right’s Activist, and I’m not a Male Feminist™ [‘cause Male Feminists™ are the worst! AmIright, ladies?] […]
I’ve spent the last five years throwing all sorts of clothing optional events. And you probably haven’t. I’ve sort of become an accidental expert on the subject, so if you’re in the St. Louis area and are in the market for a clothing optional event planner, I’m your man. If you’re outside the St. Louis […]
Why Do We Do This? Why throw a clothing optional event? Why attend one? It’s a question a child might ask, but it’s not a childish question. I’ll answer with more questions. Why do we wear costumes on Halloween? Why do we wear black to funerals? Why do some offices require business attire, and why […]
My aunt, my dad’s sister, wanted to have a relationship with me, so she became my godmother when I got baptized. She knew I loved movies so, as my godmother, she would take me to the cinema and she always let me choose. One of those movies was Working Girl. This was 1988, my freshman […]
I’m going to address something that I see quite a bit of on social media, but never hear anyone talk about. There’s a decent number of women in my life that I find interesting and want to get to know better, but with whom I don’t have the kind of relationship where we make plans […]
Note: This is a guest blog I wrote on the Clothed Female Naked Male fetish (or CFNM) for kinkandpoly.com. A few years ago I was at a munch and I was complaining that since my first Dom had moved out of state, I was having no luck recreating my ideal situation: providing service to a dominant woman while nude. […]
Sexual hang-ups. We all have them. However, whenever I discuss mine, I’m always met with surprise. It’s as if, because of the work I do (as co-founder of Sex Positive St. Louis, as a traveling sex educator and freelance sexual guru) I’m expected to have absolutely no sexual hang-ups at all. I’m human. I’m not […]