How to Throw a Penis Party

I’ve spent the last five years throwing all sorts of clothing optional events. And you probably haven’t. I’ve sort of become an accidental expert on the subject, so if you’re in the St. Louis area and are in the market for a clothing optional event planner, I’m your man. If you’re outside the St. Louis […]

The Naked Truth: SEX+STL Clothing Optional Events

Why Do We Do This? Why throw a clothing optional event? Why attend one? It’s a question a child might ask, but it’s not a childish question. I’ll answer with more questions. Why do we wear costumes on Halloween? Why do we wear black to funerals? Why do some offices require business attire, and why […]

Naked Vacuuming

My aunt, my dad’s sister, wanted to have a relationship with me, so she became my godmother when I got baptized. She knew I loved movies so, as my godmother, she would take me to the cinema and she always let me choose. One of those movies was Working Girl. This was 1988, my freshman […]

The Facebook Status Update/Open Invite

I’m going to address something that I see quite a bit of on social media, but never hear anyone talk about. There’s a decent number of  women in my life that I find interesting and want to get to know better, but with whom I don’t have the kind of relationship where we make plans […]

Clothed Female Naked Male

Photo by Molly Algernon Note: This is a guest blog I wrote on the Clothed Female Naked Male fetish (or CFNM) for kinkandpoly.com. A few years ago I was at a munch and I was complaining that since my first Dom had moved out of state, I was having no luck recreating my ideal situation: providing service to a […]

My Sexual Hang Ups: Assholes

Sexual hang-ups. We all have them. However, whenever I discuss mine, I’m always met with surprise. It’s as if, because of the work I do (as co-founder of Sex Positive St. Louis, as a traveling sex educator and freelance sexual guru) I’m expected to have absolutely no sexual hang-ups at all. I’m human. I’m not […]

Getting Naked at Dartmouth: The IvyQ Conference

So last week I presented at the IvyQ Conference at Dartmouth University. It’s a conference of LGBTQ Ivy League students. To say the least, I was intimidated. I’m used to presenting at kink conferences, not at schools I wasn’t a good enough student to get into. Then I arrived in Hanover, New Hampshire and read […]

Bare As You Dare North American Tour 2014

  Back in 2012, Stephanie Co, the co-founder and then coordinator of the World Naked Bike Ride St. Louis, asked me to put together a workshop on body image to help promote the ride. In retrospect, it’s a little embarrassing that the idea hadn’t occurred to me before that, but I jumped at the chance. […]

R.I.P. Bob Reuter

Photo by Sara A. Finke I didn’t know Bob Reuter, but like so many other people, I was inspired by him. I first became aware of him through his work as a photographer. His photographs of some of South City’s favorite denizens in South City’s favorite haunts were at once contemporary (especially if you knew […]