Clothed Female Naked Male

Photo by Molly Algernon Note: This is a guest blog I wrote on the Clothed Female Naked Male fetish (or CFNM) for kinkandpoly.com. A few years ago I was at a munch and I was complaining that since my first Dom had moved out of state, I was having no luck recreating my ideal situation: providing service to a […]

Motif Magazine Covers "Bare As You Dare" (Covers… Get It?)

Katie Lewis of Motif Magazine. My Bare As You Dare clothing optional workshop has been called “life changing.” I think it’s safe to say that writer Katie Lewis of Motif Magazine got more than she bargained for when she attended: “My dare this month was to prove that my clothes don’t make the woman by […]

My Sexual Hang Ups: Assholes

Sexual hang-ups. We all have them. However, whenever I discuss mine, I’m always met with surprise. It’s as if, because of the work I do (as co-founder of Sex Positive St. Louis, as a traveling sex educator and freelance sexual guru) I’m expected to have absolutely no sexual hang-ups at all. I’m human. I’m not […]

Getting Naked at Dartmouth: The IvyQ Conference

So last week I presented at the IvyQ Conference at Dartmouth University. It’s a conference of LGBTQ Ivy League students. To say the least, I was intimidated. I’m used to presenting at kink conferences, not at schools I wasn’t a good enough student to get into. Then I arrived in Hanover, New Hampshire and read […]

Bare As You Dare North American Tour 2014

  Back in 2012, Stephanie Co, the co-founder and then coordinator of the World Naked Bike Ride St. Louis, asked me to put together a workshop on body image to help promote the ride. In retrospect, it’s a little embarrassing that the idea hadn’t occurred to me before that, but I jumped at the chance. […]

From the Web: The BMI is a Big Fat Scam

  Check out Kiera Butler’s article for Mother Jones on Why BMI is a Big Fat Scam.  Been saying this in my body image lectures for years, the BMI is bullshit. According to it, I’m currently overweight, borderline obese. The last time I was at the high end of normal, per the BMI, was the same […]

The Ethics of Polyamory by David Wraith

The speech I gave to The Ethical Society of St. Louis on The Ethics of Polyamory is available as a podcast. Huge thanks to The Ethical Society for the opportunity and for making the recording available online. One important note: further research has shown me that the numbers I gave on infidelity are probably closer […]